Tuesday, October 27, 2009

The Last Career Guide You'll Ever Need

Just finished reading The Adventures of Johnny Bunko. The book is "written" in the form of manga. It talks about Johny Bunko who is stuck in a dead-end job as an accountant. During a night he pops a pair of chopstick apart and boomz! An anime-cal lady Diana just pops out of mid-air, becomes his career advisor and guides him and his colleagues through various projects.

Well, here are the 6 essential lessons, as quoted from Diana:

1. There is no plan.
No matter how we plan, things will still change. At the middle of the road, we still have to make decisions if the plan is not working, depending on the reasons.

We often do something for one of two reasons: instrumental reason and fundamental reason. Instrumental reason is you think it's going to lead to something else, regardless of whether you enjoy it or it's worthwhile. Fundamental reason is you think it's inherently valuable, regardless of what it may or may not lead to. The most successful people make decisions for fundamental reasons.

2. Think strengths, not weaknesses.
Research found that the key to success is to steer around your weaknesses and focus on your strengths. What do you consistently do well? What gives you energy rather than drains it? What sorts of activities create "flow" for you?

3. It's not about you.
It's about your customer. It's about your client. The most successful people improve their own lives by improving others' lives. They bring out the best in others.

4. Persistence trumps talent.
What do musicians and athletes do that others don't? They show up. They practice and practice and practice some more. That's why they do so well in whatever career they choose--even if it's not sports or music. What's the most powerful force in the universe? Compound interest. A little bit improves performance, which encourages greater performance even more. And on and on it goes.

That's why intrinsic motivation is so important. Doing things not to get an external reward or a promotion, but because you simply like doing it. The more intrinsic motivation you have, the more likely you are to persist. The more you persist, the more likely you are to succeed.

5. Make excellent mistakes.
The most successful people make spectacular mistakes--huge, honking screwups! Why? They're trying to do something big. But each time they make a mistake, they get a little better and move a little closer to excellence.

6. Leave an imprint.
You're young now, but when you get older and look back at your life, you'll ask yourself a whole bunch of questions. Did I make a difference? Did I contribute something? Did my being here matter? Did I do something that.. leave an imprint? The trouble is, many people get towards the end of their lives and don't like their answers. And by then it's almost too late.

The truly successful people deploy them in the service of something larger than themselves. They leave their companies, their communities, their families a little better than before. This isn't just career advice, guys. In some ways, this is what it means to be alive.

Wow.. Just after copying out her wisdom. These lessons are really what we often learn from the successful people and motivational gurus. Well said well said! If you like it, you may borrow it from the national library :p Nice reading if you don't have time but need the motivational pump-up.

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Don't take things TOO seriously

It took me a while to learn, that we don't have to take things TOO seriously. Of course we have to be serious at work, in relationships etc. But very often, we crossed the border, and fell off the cliff into the valley of anxiety.

Customer feedbacks, planning errors, what people think of you, people not taking your ideas into account, people not doing the way you like it to, not doing a good job, don't know what to do, don't know how to write, some emotion problems etc.

The most productive mental state is more relaxed than I thought. It is the fine line, where engines roll, giving it has got, minus the excess stress, anxiety and worry.

A lady in her 70s told me, "What I have learnt from all these years, is we don't have to be so attached to things in life. Just do your best, and whatever happens, let them be. Don't have to be so attached."

I easily throw myself into the valley, getting so stressed up that nothing is produced. Time to relax a little and fine tune towards the peak mental state*.

*Peak mental state =
engines rolling in full speed
- uncomfortable (stress + anxiety + depression + fear + worry)

Ahh.. Just have fun.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Finding the Way

If not motivated to carry on a journey, recall what is the destination.

If still don't know which way to reach, ask.

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

美人魚的愛

小時候最愛的童話故事
是美人魚的故事
尤其是迪士尼版
因為那動畫是喜劇收場

記憶中
小手拿起的美人魚繪圖故事
是蠻凄涼的

為什么
明明是美人魚把王子救上岸
為了讓自己進入王子的世界
還犧牲了嗓子
王子卻到最后與另一個女人在一起
而美人魚化成泡沫

偶然之下
我得到了答案

沒有條件
無需回報
只有付出與祝福
愛到圓滿
其實不會后悔
更不會覺得委屈
反而
覺得能愛過是幸福的





感謝我的美人魚們
(我爸、嫲嫲、影響我思想但名字化成泡泡的老師們...)
和緣分給我機會演美人魚